“She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”

— Proverbs 31:26 (ESV)

There’s a quiet strength in this verse.

So often, we think of the Proverbs 31 woman as someone who does — she cooks, she plans, she works, she provides. But here, the focus shifts from her hands to her voice.

“She opens her mouth…”

And when she does, it’s not chaotic. It’s not loud for the sake of being heard.

It’s wise, and it’s kind.

Your Voice Is Not an Afterthought

As women, especially as mothers, it’s easy to feel like our words get lost — in the noise of life, the needs of others, or even our own self-doubt. Maybe you’ve felt it too.

• You try to communicate, but you’re dismissed.
  
  

• You raise your concerns, but they’re minimized.
  
  

• You want to speak with grace, but it comes out as frustration.
  
  

Proverbs 31:26 is a reminder that your voice is sacred. When it’s rooted in God’s wisdom and delivered with kindness, it becomes a force that brings peace, correction, clarity, and love into your home.

What This Verse Really Means

Let’s break it down:

• “She opens her mouth with wisdom” – She doesn’t speak impulsively. Her words are guided by discernment, not emotion. She’s been quiet long enough to hear God first.
  
  

• “And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue” – Even when she corrects or instructs, her tone carries kindness, not control. She’s not harsh — she’s honest and nurturing at the same time.
  
  

This isn’t about being perfect with your words. It’s about being intentional with your spirit.

You can correct without criticizing.

You can be bold without being bitter.

You can be gentle without being silent.

How to Walk This Out

If you want to become the woman in this verse, here’s a good place to start:

1. Pause Before You Speak

Wisdom takes a moment. Before reacting, ask: Is this helpful, kind, or wise? Give God the first word so your response flows from peace.

2. Speak from Secure Identity, Not Insecurity

When you know your worth, you don’t have to shout to be heard. Confidence sounds calm. Let God remind you who you are before you open your mouth.

3. Let Kindness Be the Undercurrent

Kindness isn’t weakness — it’s strength under control. You can say hard things gently. You can redirect your children, set boundaries with your partner, or express your needs with grace.

🙏 Prayer to Speak with Wisdom and Kindness

God in me,

Help me slow down enough to hear You before I speak.

Fill my mouth with wisdom that calms, teaches, and restores.

Let kindness be the thread that runs through every word I say — especially when I feel frustrated, unseen, or overwhelmed.

Help me model speech that brings peace to my children and unity to my marriage.

Let my voice carry weight not because I raise it, but because it’s rooted in love and truth.

I no longer hide or silence myself. I speak with intention, with grace, and with confidence.

Thank You, God in me.

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You don’t have to stay silent in your own home.

You were never meant to be invisible.

Your voice is not too much — it’s a gift waiting to be used.